My husband is a rock star dad. He is so purposeful in training our son in his masculinity and encouraging our daughters in their femininity. One thing I’ve appreciated about him is that he hasn’t waited for them to get “old enough” to have big talks with them. The day after we brought our son home from the hospital, my husband took him out for a walk and shared the good news of Jesus with him. Having deep talks comes naturally between my husband and the kids because he’s been practicing from day one.
“Love and Protect” are words I have heard almost daily from my husband to our son. He commissions him almost daily to look after me and his sisters. The boy is six, but has heard these words almost every day since he was two. He has been taught to love the women in his life by treating them like ladies… by holding the door, helping carry in groceries, refraining from gas and gas jokes in front of them (we’re working on this one… seeing as how he has a new found pride in his bodily functions!) and other things. He has been taught to stand up for his sisters when someone is picking on them. One time at a mall playground, a bigger boy would not leave Big Sis alone. Big brother got in his face and said “leave my sister alone!” My husband was so proud, he bought him a Chick Fil A milkshake.
My son is learning that loving and protecting also means respecting. He is being taught to respect and obey his mom or he’ll have his dad to answer to.
My husband is also really purposeful of setting apart times when it is just him and the boy. They wrestle, they rough house, they throw darts, they play games. They have their man time together. My son knows there are things he can do with daddy that he probably shouldn’t do with mommy… like punches in the arm, tackling, burping… you know.. man stuff!
With another girl on the way in our family, I am so thankful for a husband that really invests in our son. My husband didn’t grow up with a strong male role model… but you’d never know it from watching him with our son.